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One of the reasons kids sometimes don't want to go to school is because they are anxious.  It can be uncomfortable for a child to be in a new situation or if he or she is uncertain about his or her ability to get along with others. 

You can help your child want to attend school every day by boosting his or her confidence.  Here are some tips and ways you can help your child feel more comfortable and confident in school.

Building Confidence
Appreciate effort no matter if they win or lose.  When you're growing up, the journey is more important than the destination.  Whether your child makes the winning goal or accidentally kicks it out of bounds, applaud their effort.  Kids should always feel proud if they are trying and putting in the effort.

Encourage practice to build competence
Encourage your child to practice whatever it is they are interested in - but do so in a way that does not put too much pressure on them.

Let kids figure out problems on their own
If you do the hard work for your children, then they'll never develop the abilities or confidence to figure out problems on their own.  It's important for kids to learn how to figure out the problem.

Let them act their age
Don't expect your child to act like an adult.  Unrealistic standards may discourage effort.  Striving to meet advanced age expectations can reduce confidence.

Give them new challenges
Show your child that they can make and accomplish small goals to reach a big accomplishment.  You can nurture confidence by increasing responsibilities.

Don't criticize your child's performance
Nothing will discourage a child more than criticizing his or her efforts. Giving meaningful feedback and making suggestions is fine, but, never tell them they're doing a bad job.  If your child is scared to fail because they worry you will be angry or disappointed, they will never try new thing.

Treat mistakes as building blocks for learning
Learning from mistakes builds confidence when you treat mistakes as an opportunity to learn and grow.  Allow kids to mess up every now and then, and help them understand how they can better approach the task next time.

Open the door to new experiences
Exposing kids to new things teaches them that no matter how scary and different something seems, the can conquer it.

Teach them what you know how to do
You are your child's hero.  Use that power to teach them what you know.  Set a good example and be a good role model.  When your children see you succeed, they will be more confident that they can do the same.

Don't tell them when you are worried about them
Parental worry can often be interpreted by the child as a vote of no confidence.

Praise kids when they deal with adversity
Life is not fair.  It's hard and every child will have to learn that at some point.  When they do encounter hardships, parents should point out how enduring these challenges will increase resilience.  Remind your child that every road to success is filled with setbacks.

Applaud your child's courage to try something new
Whether it's trying out for a sports team or going on their amusement park ride, parents should praise kids for trying new things.  Say something like, "you are brave to try this."  Comfort comes from sticking to the same thing.  It takes courage to dare the new and different.

Celebrate learning
Your child looks to you for how they should react to things.  If you get excited about things they learn and accomplish, then they will be excited about those things too.  Learning is hard work.  It creates confidence to learn more and a willingness to grow.
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